Archive for March, 2012

March 28, 2012

Seek and you shall find: Search Terms for Mutant Supermodel

I know everyone does this and I am so late to this party but honestly my brain is so asleep lately I can’t think of anything to write about so I figured I’d pick the low-hanging fruit of blogging and address some of the search engine terms that have brought you here.

Since I’ve never done in the two year life of this particular blog, there are a lot of different searches. Some are bizarre and some are funny and a lot are boring. But my top ten search hits are all different variations on only three things so I figured I’d tackle these first.

Most searched for term on Mutantsupermodel.com: Shera

Ok. First of all folks, it’s She-Ra. And her full name is She-Ra Princess of Power. She is the main character of a cartoon series from the 1980′s by the same name and originated from another cartoon series called He-Man who is her brother and who my brother MutantWino was obsessed with. MutantPirate was a bit too young to really appreciate the awesomeness of He-Man. But you don’t come here looking for He-Man, you come here looking for She-Ra. I adored She-Ra growing up and I have bemoaned the fact there is no awesome character like her for Daughter today. Leave it to today’s society to bring back the foodie Strawberry Shortcake and the man-filled Smurfs and leave out freaking She-Ra. But apparently you don’t even come here to hear all that jazz, you apparently come here for pictures of She-Ra. So here you go, enjoy some She-Ra Princess of Power eye candy.

OK I have more but I’m about good with this many don’t you think?

Second most searched term: hoarders buried alive

I’m amused my top two searches are television related because I really never ever watch TV and kind of think it rots your soul but hey, we all can’t be book worms because then the library would never have good books for me to read!

I’m going to assume most of you that come here are referencing the TLC show Hoarding: Buried Alive. It is a pretty shocking show but it’s also inspirational as I talked about here. This isn’t a one-day makeover or even a week-long transformation. The show addresses some deeply rooted issues and, in the cases I’ve seen, respects the emotional attachments these people have formed to their items. We can all relate to that, albeit in different degrees.

The fact is as much as we’d like to be rational beings, we’re very much ruled by our emotions and all of our negative behaviors are directly tied up with those dastardly things. And that’s my favorite part of the show– when the emotional trigger is identified. I’m really into this sort of concept lately and am dying to get my hands on the book The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business. Figuring out why you’re doing what you’re doing may not put an end to your behavior, but it should go a long way to at least easing associated guilt or shame while you work through the process of bringing the behavior to an end.

My favorite part is the before and after pictures because they’re not perfect results and I respect that. The improvements are still breathtaking and you’ve got to give these people some major credit on the transformations they accomplish.

Hoarder Living Room BeforeHoarder Living Room AfterHoarder Kitchen BeforeHoarder Kitchen After

Third most searched term: Mutant Supermodel

Yup, me. I have an About Me sort of page that you can read if you’re into that sort of thing. I promise you I worked very hard on making it not boring. The basics are this: I don’t run a niche site. I blog about my life as a single mom with three kids and all the many aspects of my life, loves, hates, etc. I love to write. I always have. As much as I love to read really. And I love networking and I love the interwebs. I love meeting new people. As a matter of fact, back in my prior lives as a blogger I used to participate a lot in swaps of all kinds and absolutely loved connecting with people that way. I love testing boundaries but in a really polite way, I’m not into controversy deliberate or otherwise. I’ve been doing this a while and as much as I love it, I do have my moments where I get sort of bummed with the fact I’ve never really been able to attract a really big following. Especially when I see some of these newer blogs come out and seemingly explode on the scene and the content is just… meh. But at the same time, the following I do have is amazing. And I wouldn’t trade them for anything. I mean how many single mom blogs can say they’ve only had one trollish comment ever on their blog huh? And that it happened after two years of existence?

You know how Get Rich Slowly got famous not just because of the content JD put out but because of the readers? I feel the same way about this little baby right here. Hope you do too.

So there you have it. The top three things people come to this blog looking for– She-Ra, Hoarding, and Me! One day I will tackle the more humorous ones that have led people here and another day I will tackle the more serious ones because there are some really good ones.

March 23, 2012

Walled In, Walled Out

Closing In On Me by Heroethic on Flickr

 

Tired today. Of a lot of things for a lot of different reasons.

Physically? That’s easy. Daughter asked to sleep with me last night. This never happens so I allowed it. This never leads to a good night’s rest on my part and I knew that going in and it was no different last night.

I lay there for a while between Daughter and Boyfriend (seriously, I have the lamest nicknames) listening to their generally synchronized but still completely different breathing. Daughter’s was mixed in with a slight whistly wheeze and Boyfriend’s was rougher with an occasional snore. Daughter’s was shorter than Boyfriend’s but they pretty much started and ended at the same time which is impossible for me to understand right now much less explain.

There’s a lot of yawning going on here.

But I’m also tired in a different way.

Why are so many people angry today? Fearful? Depressed? Anxious? Hopeless? The election insanity is not helping, I know. The economic crisis. It just feels like everyone is on the brink– ready to explode. And instead of coming together, reaching out, embracing each other, linking arms, we’re taking sides. Division, division, division. What happened to all the shades of gray?

White people here, Black People there, everyone else over there somewhere. Men here, women there. You “others” just go and hide somewhere so we don’t have to acknowledge your existence and recreate our nice little division system.

Republicans here, Democrats there and the rest of you grow a damn spine and either take a side or shut your mouth because this has nothing to do with you. Conservatives here, Liberals WAY over there, Moderates please see above Republicans/Democrats memo re: “the rest of you”. And by the way, changing your mind is something that no longer exists. It’s called flip-flopping now and it will not be tolerated, respected, or accepted.

United States vs The World. Poor vs Rich. Corporations vs People. My Pockets vs Your Pockets. Progression vs Regression. Spend vs Save. Capitalism vs Socialism. Free Market vs Regulation. Healthy vs Sick. Big government vs Small government. Rent vs Buy. Illegals vs Citizens. Baby vs Fetus. Hetero vs Homo. Stay at Home Mom vs Work Outside Home Mom. Atheism vs Theism. State vs Church. Single Parent vs Married Parent. Slut vs Prude. 1% vs 99%. Planet vs Global Warming. Custodial Parent vs Non-Custodial Parent. Religion vs Science. English vs Math. Candidates vs PACs. Fact vs Opinion. South vs North. East vs West. Blue vs Red. Manning vs Tebow. Blog vs Trolls. Star Wars vs Star Trek. Facebook vs Google+. WordPress vs Blogger. Knit vs Crochet. My Way vs The Highway.

Why are we so eager for a fight? Why are we so ready to jump? Why are we convinced someone/something is surely out to get us?

It is so exhausting but as much as I want to just let it go, the fighting is all around me and I can’t always stop from being caught up because so many times it just goes too far. We can debate but stick to the facts, not your interpretation of them. Contrary to popular belief, reality does not have a liberal bias. We can debate, but refrain from insults. We can debate but please keep your ears open as much as you keep your mouth open.

Every day it gets louder and louder. Everyone is screaming to make this point and that point, to be seen and to be heard. Look at me! Listen to me! Pay attention to me!

When did we forget we’re not animals? Our gut instincts are about as right as often as they’re wrong folks. Why are we listening to them more and more instead of listening to each other? My gut might tell me punching your face would be the most effective way of getting you to shut up but my  mother taught me better than that. Who do I listen to? My gut tells me to blow my paycheck on whatever I want, when I want it but the people I respect tell me to at least save some of it and I’ll be better off in the long-run. Who do I listen to? My gut tells me I should work hard to get ahead and you should do the same for yourself but Mother Teresa taught me the value of working hard to get many of us ahead together. Who do I listen to?

Isolation everywhere. Bickering. Divisiveness. This whole feeling that if you see things one way, you must be crazy/uneducated/immoral/fanatical/classless/lazy/dirty/pathetic/foolish/not human.

We don’t want to accept each others differences, we just want to know what they are so we can somehow gain the upper hand.

Isn’t it interesting how the most hyped movie right now is this thing called The Hunger Games? And the central plot to this wildly popular movie based on a wildly popular book is a bunch of fights to the death? We are drawn to this concept like moths to the flame.

There can be only one.

It’s stifling. It’s confusing. We’re being forced more and more to take narrower and narrower sides.

Am I the only one feeling claustrophobic?

March 20, 2012

The Other Reason You Should Be Angry About Trayvon Martin’s Murder

I want to say I am really proud of the discussion raging across the United States right now regarding racism which has been brought on by the tragedy of Trayvon Martin.

However, I am frustrated this discussion is completely overshadowing what I see as the key to this tragedy– the fact that George Zimmerman was licensed to own a gun. Why, why, why is gun ownership still so easy to come by in this country?

We are so advanced. We spend ungodly amounts of money on defense on a national level and services like the police on local levels and yet we insist on being armed. Why? Do you honestly think your little gun is going to protect you against the top military in the world? Do you honestly think your little gun is going to do a better job of defending your family than the highly skilled local police force?

What is it going to take for this country to let it go? At the very least, can we please make it insanely difficult to get one? How is it that one must go through major steps to become a teacher, a police officer, a fire fighter, a doctor, a lawyer, a pilot, or whatever else requires licensing and yet a paranoid man with a history of violence (against police) can obtain license to own something that is specifically designed to end lives?

I am irate, like everyone else, about the police response and handling of the tragedy but the bottom line is it shouldn’t have happened in the first place and not because we’re in 2012 and still grappling with racism. Blacks shoot and kill blacks every day. Whites shoot and kill whites every day. Men shoot and kill women. Women shoot and kill men. Children shoot and kill children.

Why?

Because it is too damn easy to get your hands on a gun in this country.

Yes, talk about racism. Let’s grapple with that monster. But for the love of god, let’s not look past what actually ended Trayvon Martin– a loaded gun.

With all of the technology and all of the services we have in place, there is absolutely no need for gun ownership. Asking for a license to own a gun is simply the equivalent of requesting a license to kill.

Self-defense? There are other methods that do not take a life and they are getting more effective every day.

The number of people who save themselves because they owned a gun is negligible, especially when compared to the number of people who died because of a gun that is fired by rage, fear, shame, anxiety, intoxication, paranoia, or any emotion that pulls a trigger– none are positive.

Yes, I am angry that in 2012 there are still idiots who find other people suspicious because of the color of their skin. Yes, I am angry that in 2012 there are still people in charge who take sides because of the color of a perpetrator’s skin before considering the facts. But, I am angrier that in 2012 there are still people who can get guns– especially people with a history of violence and paranoia (over 40 calls to 911 reporting suspicious activity or people is paranoia).

We need to come to terms with race in this country but we also need to work towards tighter gun control laws so these types of tragedies don’t happen as we work towards a better tomorrow.

What will break us finally? Columbine didn’t do it. Virginia Tech didn’t do it. Trayvon Martin isn’t doing it. The countless stories of shooting murders and fatal shooting accidents that appear in your local newspaper don’t do it. What then? And why should we wait until that sort of tragedy to take place before we move to action? Hasn’t there been enough bloodshed already? Haven’t enough black, white, Asian, Hispanic, Native American boys and girls been buried already?

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